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Media Appearances

Poly Pop - Poly Pop: You Got Me by The Roots ft. Erykah Badu - November 25, 2015

What happens when polyamory ruins your favorite song for you? Guest reviewer, Kevin, creator of Poly Role Models, tells us!

DTF: Darryl and Timaree Fun Hour at Franky Bradley's - December 18, 2015

The greatest sex ed/comedy/game show in the universe and the perfect way to start off your weekend with friends, a cute date or your sexy self. Join comedian Darryl Charles and sexologist Dr Timaree, along with a panel of awesome guests for entirely too much fun. This month features Michelle Biloon and Poly Role Models' Kevin A. Patterson!



Sex with Timaree - Ep240: Polyamory Talk w/ Poly Role Models - March 29, 2016

This week we talk to the awesome folks behind Poly Role Models about their story, their relationships and their organization. We learn about terminology, sleepovers, and managing multiple relationships.


Sex Ed-A-Go-Go - SEAGG 022: The Polyamory Show!! - June 2, 2016

The creator of Poly Role Models, Kevin Patterson, and “The Witty Titty from the Big City”, Ravenessa,  joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head in New York City on June 2nd for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.


On this episode of Sex Ed A Go-Go, Lola and the crew chat about their Polyamory origin stories, what annoys them about monogamy, nice ways to tell your partner their oral sex skills aren’t up to par, smutalingus, and why we hate love triangles.

The Talk Like A Man Project - June 28, 2016

Talk Like a Man is an ongoing conversation about masculinity in America. I hope this project will inspire you to learn more about other people's masculinities and to challenge yourself as you develop, or redefine, your own gender identity.

Poly Weekly - PW 479: What You Need to Know About Diversity in Poly  - July 25, 2016

Koe Creation arranged this interview with Kevin Patterson, creator of the Poly Role Models blog on Tumblr. We talk about how racial identity surfaces in poly, how to encourage diversity within your own poly groups and a few things you need to know about awareness.

Poly in the Cities - Episode 49: Intersection of Race and Polyamory with Kevin Patterson - September 11, 2016

For this episode, we are joined by Kevin Patterson, the founder of Poly Role Models Tumblr page.  He joins us in the Poly in the Cities studio to share with us and our listeners his workshop about the Intersections of Race and Polyamory and offers insight to how poly organizations can work to become more inclusive to their communities.  You’re going to love this conversation!

Sex City Radio - This Week on Sex City - September 27, 2016

Dorianne Williamson hosted a roundtable on Power, Privilege and Polyamory, a teaser for the upcoming event on this topic on October 15th featuring:

  • Kevin Patterson, who runs Poly Role Models, a blog/interview series for polyamorous people to share their real-life experiences.

  • Jeff Perera, who has been speaking on healthy versus toxic masculinity, and men helping end gender-based violence for over six years, and is also an anti-racism activist

  • Quinten Hackwood, a bi queer, genderqueer polyamorist who focusses heavily on trauma, consent, boundaries, and emotional processing.

  • The Open Photo Project ( - September/October, 2016

The Open Photo Project uses photography, audio and text to present the beautiful, complex lives of consensually non-monogamous people. By showing the domestic details, hobbies, and daily activities, this project offers a look at the uniqueness of human relationships. It is an invitation to re-examine preconceived notions of successful, sustainable, and healthy romantic love. Featuring the photography of Erika Kapin.


Sex on the Brain with Amory Jane - The Polyamory Episode - December, 29 2016

Our sixth episode is on the topic of polyamory – the practice of having more than one romantic relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. This episode features candid and personal conversations between Amory Jane and her guests (Kevin Patterson of Poly Role Models and educator Annamarie Stockwell), from one polyamorous person to another. They talk about the real pros and cons of ethical non-monogamy, the heartbreaks, and how others have reacted to their non-traditional relationship styles. They also talk about intersectionality in polyamory (and about how intersectional feminism is often lacking in the media and polyamory communities in general).


Narratively: Polyamorous People #4: “When I Show Up at These All-White Events and I Feel Uncomfortable, I’m Not Quiet.” - February 22, 2017
Poly Weekly - Recurring Guest Host - March 2, 2017 - Present
Life on the Swingset - SS 281: Finding and Being Community Role Models w/Kevin Patterson - March 22, 2017

There is a sort of order from chaos that happens when like minded people discover others like themselves. Individuals become clusters, clusters become groups, and with groups come unavoidable growing pains, issues, conflict, and struggle. Still, there's a certain magic that comes from having a group of diverse and motivated people with a common role come together to build something, because when you get it right, you end up with a community. Community role models are essential and tonight, Kevin Patterson joins Cooper, Dylan, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph to discuss poly role models and the joys and struggles involved with building sex positive community.

New York Times Magazine: Is An Open Marriage a Happier Marriage? - May 11, 2017
HuffPo: How Representation Works… or Doesn't - May 13th, 2017
Philadelphia Daily News: You, me, and polyamory: Inside Philadelphia's Growing Nonmonogamous Community - December 13, 2017
Loving Without Boundaries - Ep70: Kevin Patterson - December 15, 2017
Sex With Timaree - Ep309: What Kind of Person is Poly? A Conversation with Kevin Patterson - December 20, 2017

Most media depictions of polyamory are really limited. TV shows and newspaper articles tend to feature white, middle to upper class, conventionally cute, cisgender people who are now in a triad, after years of monogamy. The guys are straight, the women are bisexual. There are few examples for healthy poly relationships in general, especially ones that depict the great variety of folks engaging in consensual non-monogamy.


Enter: Kevin Patterson.


He’s been running the blog Poly Role Models for a few years now and he and his wife have been on our show before to talk about the good, the bad and the ugly of open relationships. He’s been traveling the nation speaking about his personal experiences and what he’s learned from others… and now he has a book. It’ll be available in March but you can pre-order it now.


We had a blast chatting- we talk representations of non-monogamy in media (including She’s Gotta Have It), myths and truths about sustaining multiple loving relationships, the utility of trigger warnings, how to relate to metamours and much, much more.

Poly Weekly - PW 545: Kevin Patterson on “Love’s Not Color Blind” - January 25, 2018

Kevin Patterson discusses his soon-to-be-released new book, Love’s Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities.

The Dildorks - Episode 73: PolyGoals - February 8, 2018

This week we talked to Kevin Patterson from Poly Role Models, a blog about the diversity of experiences and identities in polyamorous communities. We touched on jealousy, compersion, poly screw-ups, and more!


Sex Positive Families  - Episode 10: Polyamory + Parenting - March 5, 2018
Multiamory - Episode 161: Love is Not Colorblind  - March 6, 2018

We speak to Kevin Patterson-author, Love Is Not Colorblind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities.


VagEsteem - Episode 57: Ain’t That For White People?  - March 8, 2018
Living a Sex Positive Life - Episode 65 - April 25, 2018

We chatted with Kevin Patterson about his new book and how it came to life. His adventures in ethical nonmonogamy. We laughed and cried as some of his stories are a bit on the unbelievable but true. 


We Here Man - Episode 28: Is it possible to love only one? Let's talk Polyamory. - June 13, 2018

We Here Man is an uncensored podcast from a positive young black married couple’s perspective about nothing and everything! We tackle topics like fighting fair in arguments with your significant other or spouse, if it’s safe to vent to the opposite sex, how to deal with a “friend” that slides in your significant other’s inbox and the headaches, heartaches and joys of parenting. 


Hooker and a Shrink - Episode 10 - Contraception And Parenting With Kevin Patterson- July 9, 2018

Sex-Positive Parenting with Kevin Patterson, Contraception, Choosing to not have kids, and more! Sasha & Colby are joined by Kevin Patterson to discuss the decision to not have kids, sex positive parenting, shame, contraception, weed lube, desire and so much more. You can check out Kevin’s blog and be sure to get a copy of Love’s Not Colorblind.

Sex Ed-A-Go-Go - The Birthday Show!! - July 28, 2018

The creator of Poly Role Models, Kevin Patterson, and Foxy Squire, joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head in New York City on July 28th for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.


Sex Out Loud with Tristan Taormino - May 18, 2018

Kevin Patterson is the author of the definitive book on how race and polyamory.


Artgasm - Love’s Not Color Blind - August 07, 2018

Polyamory educator and comic book aficionado Kevin Patterson joins Artgasm to talk Black Panther, Get Out, Black masculinity, and his deep love for the X-Men.


Two Married Sluts - Episode 9: Love & Sex w/ Kevin Patterson, Author of Love's Not Color Blind - August 29, 2018

An interview and exploration with Kevin Patterson, M.Ed., author of Love's Not Color Blind and creator of the Poly Role Models project. In his book, Kevin discusses race and representation in polyamorous communities. Kevin interviews and features people in polyamorous relationships on his website Poly Role Models, but we were curious to interview him and hear about his love life, relationships, and sex life. Kevin opened up about his experiences with polyamory, relationship anarchy, making mistakes, and falling in love. We also got to hear about his "handy" talents and sexual interests as well as a juicy sex story of the week.


On the Wet Coast  - OTWC 026: Sex, Geeks, and Sexy Geekery - October 4, 2018
Poly Weekly - PW 563: A queer, poly superhero novel centering people of color? Yes, please! - October 14, 2018

Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan have come out with a new superhero novel in which queerness, polyamory, and people of color are normalized.

Sex Ed In Color - Episode 1: Polyamory, Media, and Kevin Patterson - October 23, 2018

In today's episode, we chat with polyamory and masculinity educator Kevin Patterson on his latest book, "For Hire: Operator" and polyamory in the media. And of course, comics.

Multiamory - Episode 202: Polyamorous Superhero Fiction  - January 8, 2019

We speak to Kevin Patterson & Alana Phelan author's of For Hire: Operator. The book is an all emcompassing love story and super hero novel all wrapped into one. 2 women of color with super human powers whose story touches on subjects on consent, polyamory, gender-non-conformity, safe sex practices, sex clubs and more! These super heroes want to help their communities while pushing back against today's obstacles.


Life on the Swingset - SS 342: Polyamorous Authors and Representation, with Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan - January 16, 2019

Authors of the new Paperback, For Hire: Operator, Alana Phelan and Kevin Patterson, join Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, and Ginger Bentham to talk about being polyamorous authors and writing with an eye on representation and being true to ourselves.


Normalizing Nonmonogamy - Episode 45: Kevin Patterson (Poly Role Models) - January 23, 2019

Author, blogger, and speaker of all things polyamory, Kevin Patterson sits down for a wide-ranging interview with us this week. We talk gender roles, male stereotypes, navigating polyamory as a person of color and much more. Kevin also discusses a little bit about the two books he published in 2018: Love's Not Colorblind and For Hire: Operator. We had a great time talking with Kevin and know this won't be the last time our paths cross. Get in here and check it out!


Trauma Queen - Season 4 - Episode 5 "What is a Poly Role Model?" - April 30, 2019

Trauma Queen and Kevin Patterson (@Polyrolemodels) the Curator whom I call an educator. Talked about the social justice aspects within sex ed and lots of juicy deets about Polyamory.

The Moment - Season 1 - Episode 10 "Sharing The Love" - September 4, 2019

When Kevin hooked up with his girlfriend’s friend, he assumed the relationship would end. Antoinette didn’t mind. In fact, she was glad he was dating other people, because that meant she could, too. Humans are capable of so much love, they figured - why limit themselves to just one person? And Ingrid wonders if saying yes to one person means saying no to everyone else?

Loving Without Boundaries - Episode 121 "SFS19 Live Podcast" - September 6, 2019

In this episode, I am so proud to share with you our first ever Live Podcast Recording of LWB with an esteemed panel of various Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit attendees: Kevin Patterson, author of “Love Is Not Color Blind” and co-author of “For Hire: Operator”; Ruby Johnson, founder of the PolyDallas Millennium conference; and Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti, creator of the Transcending Shame workshop. This recording took place at Kitty Chambliss’s home in Alexandria, Virginia on Thursday, August 15th, 2019 in front of a live audience of wonderful and enthusiastic folks, including my two nesting partners. The topic of discussion is the Intersection of Polyamory and various themes such as shame, divorce, infertility/family creation, and people of color. I hope you enjoy this show as much as I did creating it. I do hope that you will consider supporting the creation and continuation of this podcast by becoming a patron. Thank you so much for listening and being here as part of our community. We love you all!

Polyamory Weekly - Episode 570 "On writing inclusive fiction with Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan" - September 8, 2019

Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan join us to talk about their latest queer superhero novel and how to be more inclusive in fiction.

Question Box - Episode 8 "Kevin Patterson" - September 9, 2019

This week, we grill Kevin Patterson (@polyrolemodels) about his experiences with intoxicants, good and bad things about his body, and something from his childhood that his parents still don't know about. And Brent reveals the aftermath of his newfound love.

Off the Cuffs - 189 - One Dick To Rule Them All! - December 12, 2019

This week we talk with Kevin Patterson of Poly Role Models about his experience in polyamory, from the trials and tribulations to the successes. We also dig into how race, masculinity, and personal growth each intersect with polyamory.

Multiamory - 251 - Polyamory in Science Fiction - December 17, 2019

Although we’ve covered polyamory in media before, this time, we’re specifically focusing on representation in science fiction with Kevin Patterson, author of the For Hire novel series and a member of the Philadelphia polyamory community.

Life on the Swingset - SS 367: Gangbang the Mailbag 39 with Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson - December 29, 2019

That Swingset mailbag we all know and love was getting pretty full of listener questions. And since there is always a swing available on the Swingset, Dylan and Ginger invited Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson to share their wisdom. The foursome takes on questions about mono-polyam relationship sustainability, supporting your partner's dating life, and finds time to catch up about some awesome life updates.


Tamron Hall Show  - January 23, 2020
American Sex - Ep 116: QTPOC Superheroes & Inclusive Fiction w/ Kevin Patterson & Alana Phelan - January 27, 2020

On Episode 116 of American Sex Podcast, Kevin Patterson & Alana Phelan, authors of the For Hire series, talk about the queer superhero universe they created. We also discuss why centering marginalized voices is important in fiction, how Harry Potter fans are handling the JK Rowling TERF situation, why books like Fifty Shades of Grey and Anne Rice’s Beauty Series positively changed our culture while still perpetuating harmful stereotypes, and how positive representation in media can change the world. The pair also tell us about being awarded and Effing Foundation Grant and their upcoming non-fiction book about cautionary polyamory.


Sex With Timaree - Ep378: Kevin Patterson Returns… with Superheroes! - February 5, 2020

Kevin Patterson has been a guest twice before: with two of his partners and on his own, talking about representations of polyamory and the good/bad/ugly of non-monogamy. It’s very much his wheelhouse. He’s made a lot of rounds on TV shows, conferences panels and just made a general splash on the internet with his project Poly Role Models. Today he’s back to catch us up on his latest projects. Not only does he continue to be The Guy for talking about race and polyamory- he did after all write the book on it– but he’s got a new superhero comic out called For Hire that he created with a fellow sex nerd, Alana Phelan.


American Sex - Ep 122: Polyamory Problems with Dr. Liz Powell & Kevin Patterson - March 9, 2020

Episode 122 of American Sex Podcast is a wonderful resource for those curious about non-monogamy or seasoned pros with bumps in the road. Dr. Liz Powell and Kevin Patterson discuss how the toxic monogamous ideals we bring into polyamorous relationships trip us up, give advice for poly breakups, and answer to the question “can you cheat if you’re polyamorous?” You’ll also get tips for managing resentment and frustration, addressing the perceived power imbalance between long-time partners and new metamours, how not to come off as a dreaded unicorn hunter, navigating poly Facebook, finding solid resources for newcomers, figuring out what non-monogamous label best fits you, and more. Grab your partners, metamours, and like-minded friends–this episode will spark some great conversation. 


Life on the Swingset - SS 374: Unf_ck Your Polyamory with Dr. Liz and Kevin Patterson - March 29, 2020

Dylan and Ginger host Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell to discuss their new educational project: Unf_ck Your Polyamory. Whether it is relating to metamours, balancing time with partners, or communication, communication, communication, sustaining fulfilling polyamorous relationships requires a commitment to personal growth. Kevin and Dr. Liz are here to help!


Sex Out Loud - Kevin A. Patterson & Alana Phelan on Creating the Superheroes You Want - May 18, 2020

Kevin A. Patterson & Alana Phelan, the authors of the For Hire series, join us to talk about their new books featuring queer polyamorous heroes and magicians. It's a world like our own, but the emergence of superhumans has created shifts in culture that play out in changes both subtle and monumental. They chat about what inspired the characters, the story, and whether shadow government conspiracy theories are real.


The Dildorks - Episode 189: Polyamory Plus Pandemic - May 19, 2020

This week we had a great chat with authors and polyamory educators Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell about their 6-week online course, Unfuck Your Polyamory. We also got their advice on some of the polyamory pitfalls people are experiencing these days due to the coronavirus lockdown.


Glow West - Episode 9: Polyamory, Race, and Relationship Anarchy - June 8, 2020

Is there a right way to do polyamory? Join Glow West this week as married couple Kevin and Antoinette Patterson explain polyamory in practice. They explore how race intersects with polyamory and sex, what relationship anarchy is, and how accurate representation in the media is important.


Artgasm - Creative Partnerships with Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan - June 10, 2020

Co-writers Alana Phelan and Kevin Patterson discuss navigating metamour-ship and friendship while writing books, making private lives public, and bridging the gap between relationship education and narrative fiction.


Detoxicity - Episode 20 - July 29, 2020

My guest for this episode is Kevin Patterson. Kevin is an educator based in Philadelphia. He runs the blog Poly Role Models and has authored the book Love’s Not Color Blind: Race & Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities. Additionally, Kevin has co-authored two volumes so far in the superhero series For Hire with Alana Phelan.

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